I’m almost as open minded as my wife and our close friends, but I’ve gotta tell you this business with pro basketball players Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson is difficult to comprehend and accept.
In case you’re not familiar with this wacky relationship, Griner, a former Baylor University star, and Johnson were engaged at the time of a row at their Phoenix home in late April.
Police described the melee as “mutual combat.” In a 911 call, Glory Johnson’s sister told the operator that the two women were throwing plates and bowls at each other.
Both women were arrested, and Griner, who plays for the Phoenix Mercury, entered a diversion program, agreeing to plead guilty to disorderly conduct and attend 26 weeks of counseling. Johnson’s case is pending. The WNBA suspended both players seven weeks after an investigation.
So, in most cases, that would be the end of the engagement, right? Or at least there would be a significant cooling-off period and time to reflect on the strength and viability of the relationship.
But, no, the two plunged ahead and got married in early May, a little more than two weeks after the fight.
And so they embarked on a life…er, four weeks, together.
On Friday, Griner filed papers seeking to annul the month-old marriage.
In a statement released Friday, Griner said:
“Last Wednesday, Glory and I agreed to either legally separate, get divorced, or annul our marriage…In the week prior to the wedding, I attempted to postpone the wedding several times until I completed counseling, but I still went through with it. I now realize that was a mistake.”
There’s enough weirdness there for more than the average off-on-the-wrong-foot marriage, but there’s more.
On Thursday, the day before Griner filed for the annulment, Johnson announced on Instagram that she was pregnant.
Her team, the Tulsa Shock, later confirmed that Johnson would miss the 2015 WNBA season, which started Friday night, due to the pregnancy.
In a statement provided by the team, Johnson said:
“It has always been a dream of mine to start a family with someone I love. Being a professional athlete that plays year round, there is never a perfect time to get pregnant without putting my career on hold. The entire process, from learning our fertility options, to making sacrifices necessary nine months before the child is born, is merely preparing me to become a great wife and an even better mother.”
…Maybe I’m just old fashioned, but I think a marriage between a man and a woman…or two women…or two men…should be grounded in selflessness and mutual respect. It seems pretty stupid — no, it is stupid — to lurch into a wedding two weeks after engaging in a brawl.
And what about the child that will be born in nine months? What kind of a family environment and what kind of nurturing will he or she get?
Much has been written about Griner’s coming-out two years ago and her homosexuality. When she was at Baylor, her coach, Kim Mulkey, came under some criticism for asking Griner to keep her homosexuality under wraps, thinking it would be bad for recruiting.
It turns out that Mulkey was right to rein Griner in — and not just because it might have been bad for recruiting. Had she come out while she was still in school, she might have gotten a jump on showing the world that she is essentially out of control.
The whole sordid mess is a classic case of selfishness, stupidity and irresponsibility.